Well, let me share what I learned from this talk that I have heard last month July 24, 2011- Sunday Public Talk. It was entitled "Do You Harbor Resentment or Do You Forgive?"
I had no idea what harbor and resentment meant at that time (I don't have much of an english vocabulary words anyways ^^, ). The good thing was that the speaker explained what those words mean so that was a plus right there.
Resentment- more than an anger, it is more of grinding ones teeth.
Harbor- to provide a place of protection.
So it was laid easy for me. With a snap of a finger, right there and there, I understand what the title really means. "Do you provide a place of protection for your raging anger or do you forgive?". That's how I saw the title.
The speaker was very good and he made me relate to what he was talking. I harbor resentment myself, I'm not gonna hide it, so the talk really struck me. And it was refreshing and enlightening.
Let me just list what thought I liked from the talk and got stuck on my head.::
(I turned the thought into a first person so that I could really put myself on the situation)
* I DO NOT have the right to harbor resentment because my imperfection is as big or bigger than the person I am resenting.
* If I am offended and I take offensive actions or vengeance, I am being stupid. → [Ecclesiastes. 7:9]
* Jehovah God is looking for opportunities to forgive me, and I should too.-- [Psalms 103:9→ He will not for all time keep finding fault]
* If I don't worry too much, then, I am not gonna get offended, remember, that I offended somebody else too.-- [ Ecclesiastes 7:21,22→ Also do not give your heart to all the words that people may speak]
* If I burst out in anger because of what my friend sin against me, it will be no longer my friend's sin but mine already and is bigger than the original sin my friend has done to me. --[ Proverbs 29:20,22→ There is more hope for someone stupid than for him who beheld a man hasty with his words.]
* Forgive the person and show it. . . I should forgive someone first to be able to apologize to them.
*FORGIVE AND FORGET- I can't forget the thing thing that was done to me by that person, but the point is I should be able to forget the pain and move on.
I realize how stupid I was to hold grudges against my friends and some of them are even older than me. I asked myself after, "what benefits does animosity has given me?". I felt aweful and very stubborn and decided to make changes.
I've been trying my best to live up with those things that I heard and I admit it is hard because I'm not used to apologizing especially when my mind is set that I have done nothing wrong. I sometimes post statuses on Facebook that I think would make them feel guilty, sorry or even angry. Like this:
But after a lot of thinking on what is really my goal, I took it back and removed it. And tried not to post double meaning messages. It is not easy but IT CAN BE DONE.
I haven't been very successful with the apologizing field with one particular person. That person still won't talk to me and I assume that person has not accepted my apologies still. What else could I possibly do? Well, I am just wishing, hoping and praying that time would make that person's heart softer.
I hope you (the reader) realize something and benefited while reading my blog. And more power to all your efforts. ☺
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